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i cant believe that its that time again when people who care ( i hope) will greet you "happy birthday" yups! my birthday is coming real fast even before i knew it. i cant stop it but its part of life i guess. you grow old and wiser i hope i do haha anyways, i guess i have learn a lot of things now.now that im wiser (haha) i wish! anyway, there is no such thing as a happy ever afterall and there is no such thing as everlasting love....these are just a bunch of words that made you believe in it when you were younger then when shit happens in thats where you will be tested i guess. anyways, im not saying that believing in those things could be that bad but dont depend on it so much. things in life is never that easy and we sometimes need to learn things the hard way to actually learn what we need to learn. i know i did. i always believe that once you found the one that made you happy from inside and out that person is the right one for you but i was wrong..i need to be happy for me not because someone made me happy. to be honest, what im feeling now is much more better compare to what i felt before. i guess i have grown up in some part. i know now that he never did love me as much as i did. and along i was the one who believe in forever between us but sadly he never saw becuase if he did why is he not doing anything about it. he just there smiling all the way i guess i dont know and freakly speaking, i just dont care anymore. that day i gave him his birthday gift was the last time i will ever give him anything oh shit! there is still christmas. well, a xmas gift wont hurt right? i guess it is the season of giving so who am i not to give when i can after all. i just dont get him sometimes he can be this cold but other times he can be this hot. You know that song by Katy Perry' Hot N Cold. well, i really think that song really suit him so much. he shows that he cares by asking how i am when in fact maybe he just being "nice" to me becuase i was sick that time becuase he knows it was his fault. hay...forget it! its past already. he is very happy now and i am happy with my life as well. i dont know if he has a gf now but most likely he might be becuase he is a ladies' man after all always around with girls. well, i do sometimes hang with the guys i guess more (tomboy) sometimes haha well ya thats that then. i still think of him but not often anymore. im actually trying to delet him in my memory. even though he thought me something but thinking of him just reminds me what a fool i was to actually believe him and the promises he said to me. i still care for him but...its different now..i know i cnt turn back the time but if i have a chance i would want to tell myself before not to fall deep for someone who cnt never catch you as you fall hard...
Listen @ 10:02 PM




Waiting


Its not the fact you lead me on and didnt call

Its simply cuz you didn't like me at all


I truly love you and all that you are


But this whole situation has gone to far


So tell me now and tell me true


Don't tell me you don't know cuz I'm not through


Tell me a lie and tear me apart


Make me cry and break my heart


Are you true or just fucking with me


Why do you do this, why cant u leave me be


You don't know the pain or the aching deep inside


You don't know how i feel you didn't know i cried


I'm sorry i know I'm the blame

But i really thought you felt the same

But look at what you did, try to see through me


Look into my eyes and maybe you will see
i dont even hate you

I think i still love you

But i guess ill have to wait and see

If you'll change and come for me
Listen @ 10:08 PM




Waiting for true love

Everyone around me

Has someone to love

Me, I sit lonely

Wondering is it my turn?

17 and never been kissed

Almost out of school-

I think, am I ugly?

Or am I just a fool-

For thinking I had a chance

To be with Mr. Right


Am I just getting my hopes up

or is there really someone

who will love and fight for me

who will be my destiny-


I know true love waits

But I feel all alone

I wish that love would come

and sweep me off my feet
Listen @ 9:58 PM




I got this information from Yahoo.
A fellow at New York City's Weill Cornell Medical Center, Dr. Sam Parnia is one of the world's leading experts on the scientific study of death. Last week Parnia and his colleagues at the Human Consciousness Project announced their first major undertaking: a 3-year exploration of the biology behind "out-of-body" experiences. The study, known as AWARE (AWAreness during REsuscitation), involves the collaboration of 25 major medical centers through Europe, Canada and the U.S. and will examine some 1,500 survivors of cardiac arrest. TIME spoke with Parnia about the project's origins, its skeptics and the difference between the mind and the brain.

What sort of methods will this project use to try and verify people's claims of "near-death" experience?

When your heart stops beating, there is no blood getting to your brain. And so what happens is that within about 10 sec., brain activity ceases - as you would imagine. Yet paradoxically, 10% or 20% of people who are then brought back to life from that period, which may be a few minutes or over an hour, will report having consciousness. So the key thing here is, Are these real, or is it some sort of illusion? So the only way to tell is to have pictures only visible from the ceiling and nowhere else, because they claim they can see everything from the ceiling. So if we then get a series of 200 or 300 people who all were clinically dead, and yet they're able to come back and tell us what we were doing and were able see those pictures, that confirms consciousness really was continuing even though the brain wasn't functioning.

How does this project relate to society's perception of death?

People commonly perceive death as being a moment - you're either dead or you're alive. And that's a social definition we have. But the clinical definition we use is when the heart stops beating, the lungs stop working, and as a consequence the brain itself stops working. When doctors shine a light into someone's pupil, it's to demonstrate that there is no reflex present. The eye reflex is mediated by the brain stem, and that's the area that keeps us alive; if that doesn't work, then that means that the brain itself isn't working. At that point, I'll call a nurse into the room so I can certify that this patient is dead. Fifty years ago, people couldn't survive after that.

How is technology challenging the perception that death is a moment?

Nowadays, we have technology that's improved so that we can bring people back to life. In fact, there are drugs being developed right now - who knows if they'll ever make it to the market - that may actually slow down the process of brain-cell injury and death. Imagine you fast-forward to 10 years down the line; and you've given a patient, whose heart has just stopped, this amazing drug; and actually what it does is, it slows everything down so that the things that would've happened over an hour, now happen over two days. As medicine progresses, we will end up with lots and lots of ethical questions.

But what is happening to the individual at that time? What's really going on? Because there is a lack of blood flow, the cells go into a kind of a frenzy to keep themselves alive. And within about 5 min. or so they start to damage or change. After an hour or so the damage is so great that even if we restart the heart again and pump blood, the person can no longer be viable, because the cells have just been changed too much. And then the cells continue to change so that within a couple of days the body actually decomposes. So it's not a moment; it's a process that actually begins when the heart stops and culminates in the complete loss of the body, the decompositions of all the cells. However, ultimately what matters is, What's going on to a person's mind? What happens to the human mind and consciousness during death? Does that cease immediately as soon as the heart stops? Does it cease activity within the first 2 sec., the first 2 min.? Because we know that cells are continuously changing at that time. Does it stop after 10 min., after half an hour, after an hour? And at this point we don't know.

What was your first interview like with someone who had reported an out-of-body experience?

Eye-opening and very humbling. Because what you see is that, first of all, they are completely genuine people who are not looking for any kind of fame or attention. In many cases they haven't even told anybody else about it because they're afraid of what people will think of them. I have about 500 or so cases of people that I've interviewed since I first started out more than 10 years ago. It's the consistency of the experiences, the reality of what they were describing. I managed to speak to doctors and nurses who had been present who said these patients had told them exactly what had happened, and they couldn't explain it. I actually documented a few of those in my book What Happens When We Die because I wanted people to get both angles - not just the patients' side but also the doctors' side - and see how it feels for the doctors to have a patient come back and tell them what was going on. There was a cardiologist that I spoke with who said he hasn't told anyone else about it because he has no explanation for how this patient could have been able to describe in detail what he had said and done. He was so freaked out by it that he just decided not to think about it anymore.

Why do you think there is such resistance to studies like yours?

Because we're pushing through the boundaries of science, working against assumptions and perceptions that have been fixed. A lot of people hold this idea that, well, when you die, you die; that's it. Death is a moment - you know you're either dead or alive. All these things are not scientifically valid, but they're social perceptions. If you look back at the end of the 19th century, physicists at that time had been working with Newtonian laws of motion, and they really felt they had all the answers to everything that was out there in the universe. When we look at the world around us, Newtonian physics is perfectly sufficient. It explains most things that we deal with. But then it was discovered that actually when you look at motion at really small levels - beyond the level of the atoms - Newton's laws no longer apply. A new physics was needed, hence, we eventually ended up with quantum physics. It caused a lot of controversy - even Einstein himself didn't believe in it.

Now, if you look at the mind, consciousness, and the brain, the assumption that the mind and brain are the same thing is fine for most circumstances, because in 99% of circumstances we can't separate the mind and brain; they work at the exactly the same time. But then there are certain extreme examples, like when the brain shuts down, that we see that this assumption may no longer seem to hold true. So a new science is needed in the same way that we had to have a new quantum physics. The CERN particle accelerator may take us back to our roots. It may take us back to the first moments after the Big Bang, the very beginning. With our study, for the first time, we have the technology and the means to be able to investigate this. To see what happens at the end for us. Does something continue?


Listen @ 9:43 PM




what can i say about "high school musical 3" i just simple cant wait to see it =) i have seen the first till the last and i really love the story, songs and most importantly the dance steps its just so fabulous!! lol

i like this song from HSM3 the most titled "Now or Never "
its actually a very simple song but i think its kinda very encouraging especially to those who have seem to have lost its hope on something or just plain afraid to take a risk on its life....


the lyrics goes like this...

lyrics:
16...16...16 minutes left better get it done
16...16...16 more minutes get ready GAME ON!
16...16...16 minutes left running out of time
16...16...16 more minutes seconds on the line
16...16...16 minutes left gotta get it done
16...16...16 more minutes till we're number one!

Let's go team!

Gotta get it together
Yeah pull up and shoot! Score!
Are you ready?
Are you with me?
Team...Team...Team
Yeah!
Shake'em with the crossover (WILDCATS)
Tell me what we're here for
To win!
Cause we know we're the best team
Come on boys...come on boys...come on!
The way we play tonight
Is what we leave behind (that's right)
It all comes down to right now its up to us (LET'S GO)
So what are we gonna be (gonna be)
T-E-A-M TEAM!
Gotta work it out! turn it on! (come on!)

This is the last time to get it right
This is the last chance to make it our night (yea)
We gotta show what we're all about (TEAM!) (WILDCATS!)
Work together! (GO!)
This is the last chance to make our mark (SHOOT!)
History will know who we are
This is the last game so make it count it's
NOW OR NEVER!

W-I-L-D (Atta boy!) WILDCATS GET UP COME ON
W-I-L-D WILDCATS COME ON COME ON
West High Knights
Hey!
Yeah we're doing it right
Oh yea!
W(YEAH!)-I-L-D WILDCATS NOWS THE TIME

Gotta get an inside down low
End the pain, Now shoot! Score! (DEFENSE!)
Gotta work it together!
Gimme the ball...Gimme the ball...Gimme the ball! (FAST BREAK)
(Press play, Get the ball in control)
Let it fly from downtown (THREE MORE)
Show them we can do it better (NO WAY!)
GO! GO! GO!COME ON BOYS!(WILD CATS)

The way we play tonight (YEA!)
Is what we leave behind (thats right)
It all comes down to right (West High) now its up to us (LET'S GO)
So what are we gonna be (gonna be)
T-E-A-M TEAM!
Gotta work it out! turn it on! (COME ON!)

This is the last time to get it right (GO!)
This is the last chance to make it our night (YEA!)
We gotta show what we're all about (TEAM!) (WILDCATS!)
Work together! (GO!)
This is the last chance to make our mark (HOOPS)
History will know who we are (who we are)
This is the last game so make it count it's
NOW OR NEVER!

Troy: Right now I can hardly breath
Gabriella: Oh, you can do it just know that I believe
Troy: And thats all I really need
Gabriella: Then come on!
Make me strong
Its time to turn it up
GAME ON!

WILDCATS GONNA TEAR IT UP
GO WILDCATS
YEA WE'RE NUMBER ONE
HEY WILDCATS WE'RE THE CHAMPIONS
GO! GO! GO! GO! GO! GO! GO TEAM GO!

West High Knights
Hey!
Yea we're putting up a fight
WILDCATS!
We never quit it! What? Gonna win it! What?
Let me hear you say
HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY!

This is the last time to get it (oh!) right
This is the last chance to make it all (yea!) happen
We got to show them what we're all about (TEAM!) (WILDCATS)
WORK TOGETHER! (Troy!)
This is the last chance to make our mark
History will know who we are (who we are)
This is the last game so make it count it's
NOW OR NEVER
YEAH!




**** its really simple but if you really listen and understand it gives another meaning to it well i guess only people who are going through something in their lives might see it compare to those who seem clueless or just plain likes to listen to music alone =/ i just cant wait to watch it !!!!


Listen @ 11:39 PM














gURL.comI took the "Chinese Elements" quiz on gURL.com
I am...
Water

The ancient Yin-Yang scholars saw water types as people who usually didn't mind spending a little time by themselves. Honesty probably means a lot to you--if there's one thing water types can't stand, it's people who tell lies, even "little" white lies. Water types are happiest near water. Read more...

What chinese element are you?
Listen @ 11:48 AM




gURL.comI took the "flower symbolism" quiz on gURL.com
my romance flower is a
rose

Ever felt like your heart was going to explode? Do you think your relationship would make the perfect romance novel? If so, your flower is the rose. Read more...

What kind of flower symbolizes your romance?
Listen @ 11:04 AM




i was talking to one of my ex's close friend yesterday and i found out a lot more stuff about L....i guess he really still love his ex ( his first love) even when we were together that time...i felt so used and fooled by him and her...i will never forget how that ex of his just told me that "i know him so i think you should just give up....." upon hearing that my heart just went from being okie to breaking even deeper...why would she say such things to me and to make it worse she actually told me what if i found out that they are BACK together again what would i do? come on! how could you ask your ex's ex such question.....i was so speechless for a min or two but i give her my answer...i told her what else can i do its his choice not mine but i know i will be very sad and i will cry...

then his friend just told me that he really has changed a lot since he met that gf of him before...why would he still choose someone who has cheated on him so many times and now has a kid now over me? when i didnt even cheat on him ever! i really loved him truly and faithfully.....why cnt he see me?!!! why cnt he just see my worth?! why?why?Why?!!!!!!! is this all i get for loving you with all my heart with all of me?... why would you do this to me?!....
Listen @ 10:16 AM




It seems logical that like would attract like, but in my private practice as a marriage counselor and psychotherapist, I often see people drawn to their opposite.

“For "opposite" couples, your relationship feels great at first, because it's new and exciting. But if there isn't a certain degree of similarity between you and your partner, it will be too stressful to last.”


For "opposite" couples, your relationship feels great at first, because it's new and exciting. But if there isn't a certain degree of similarity between you and your partner, it will be too stressful to last. The excitement and challenge of your relationship comes from your differences; the security and ease of your relationship comes from your similarities.
Dating subjects you should understand to overcome challenging differences between you and your partner:

Different Genders
To begin with, unless you're in a same-sex couple, you're dealing with different genders. Part of figuring out if you'll make a good couple is working out the differences in your social expectations. It's no wonder people are nervous, social mores are changing rapidly, and no one is too sure how to act. The best thing you can do is react slowly, and give your date a chance to telegraph what he or she is going to do.

For single women: Don't rush to get out of the car. Fiddle a bit with your handbag until you see if he makes a move to come around and open your door. Don't just yank a door open and walk through. Walk a little slowly to give him a chance to open it. If he does neither of these things, no harm done -- just do it yourself and now you know. When the bill comes for the first date, if he asked you out and selected the restaurant, it's safe to assume he's paying. Don't take it for granted -- definitely thank him.
If you have his address, it's charming to send a little thank you note, and it doesn't seem as forward as a call. Or use email, or call his home phone and leave a little thank you message when you know he's at work.
Men value competency and problem solving. Women value intimacy and emotional connection. The truth is that learning successful problem solving ends fighting and power struggles, and therefore leads to more intimacy. Women, you may think he's focused entirely on time, power, or money, but what he's really trying to do is create enough security that he can feel safe to let his guard down. Men, you might think she's illogical or irrational, but she's responding to emotional cues you haven't been trained to see.

Different Families and/or Cultures
It's not just that "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" -- it's that all of us have grown up on different planets. Whatever your family did seems "normal" and "right" to you, and

“couples can get caught up in arguing about who's right rather than focusing on what will work.”

couples can get caught up in arguing about who's right rather than focusing on what will work. This is especially difficult in mixed-culture families. Blended couples have blended children, who need both cultures. Learning to combine traditions, cuisines, and family celebrations can really create a brand new culture that celebrates everyone. I have helped many couples accomplish this, and the result is joyful.

Coming Together
When your differences are grating against each other, you need to stop insisting you're right or your partner is wrong, and seek to re-establish your connection. To reconnect, be sure you are listening to each other and understanding your mutual needs and wants. The most powerful thing you can do to keep a marriage strong is form a partnership, a team, where both parties feel respected, cared about, and needed. If you really want to revive your relationship, begin not by complaining about your needs that aren't being met, but by focusing on understanding your partner's needs, and communicating what you want. Once you make the connection, you can begin to work out the issues.

Intimacy Breaks Barriers

Intimacy is the art of making your partner feel understood and accepted. When this feeling is created, barriers fall. Gentle touch, eye contact, a gentle sense of humor, and the right words all create an intimate atmosphere. Commenting positively on your partner's looks or the day's activities will also help. Partners often disconnect when they don't feel interested in each other anymore. When there's a problem with intimacy, a partner who's sympathetic and doesn't make demands can be very healing and appealing.

Four simple steps to create a successful relationship despite your differences:
1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other about your frustrations, about intimacy, about anger, about disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of life, about everything.
2. Strive to work together to solve anything that comes up. Learn to be a team, a partnership. Don't get stuck on who's right or wrong. Instead, focus on what will solve the problem.
3. Keep your connection going through communication, affection, understanding, and mutual concern for one another.
4. Have a sense of humor, give the benefit of the doubt, and lighten up. Try not to react so dramatically, and let small things roll off your back.
When you follow these four steps, your differences won't separate you -- they'll excite you.
Listen @ 6:16 PM




Our Love

Loves memory has traced our outline in this place.
But will the spider remember, or the sun?

Did the water capture our faces in permanence? Does the wind create us anew as it blows?
Did the shadows from the trees record our passage beneath them?

Our secret been revealed.

Yet I have told no other.
I write these words in silence, in mute testimony
To what once was.
But our image remains alive in this place.

It can not be removed.

You, me,
We then, Were here.
We saw the day and hoped for tomorrow.
We caught a brief glimpse of love's promise.

We were not liars,
But thieves of time.
For now time has now forgotten us,

Yet our memory lingers, and love remembers

This place that was ours.


Quotes


  • I cry for the time that you were almost mine, I cry for the memories I've left behind, I cry for the pain, the lost, the old the new, I cry for the times I thought I had you
  • Every night i talk to the stars pretending its you.. it acts just like you tho.. far away and never replies to my questions
  • Why do people tell you to believe in what you want to but then tell you not to believe in the one true thing you do believe in?
  • Do not assume that he who seeks to comfort you now, lives untroubled among the simple and quiet words that sometimes do you good. His life may also have much sadness and difficulty, that remains far beyond yours. Were it otherwise, he would never have been able to find these words.
  • The sad truth is that most evil is done by people who never make up their minds to be good or evil.
  • Not all scars show, not all wounds heal Sometimes you can't always see The pain someone feels.
Listen @ 12:50 AM




its funny whenever I'm online i always end up wishing he would pop by and say "i miss you"...before it was so hard to use a computer in this place i would always end up waiting for my mom to be to able to go online because of the dangerous paths we have to take when it reaches night time here...but its gone now...i know i should just forget even thinking that we could still have another chance......i have cried so many times before because its what i can only do...i hated everything and everyone even God....i hated the fact that i gave all of myself but only to break me up into pieces like this...it was unfair...it was so unfair...it was the first time i really gave my whole heart to someone but i was broken up by the same someone....thorns i had...i was like a rose so special but once you touch it you will bleed...people might want them but many are afraid by the thorns it goes around its body...now i wonder would there be anyone who will want a rose with thorns like me or will i forever be in the freezer for display......


i want to tell him so many times i miss him so much but I'm afraid...I'm scared that someone who might own his heart now will get mad...i want so much to tell him i still love him so....but who would want a thorn rose like me.........


my happy ending - avril lavigne
Listen @ 12:56 PM




It's the feeling that wells up inside when a date speaks highly of an attractive coworker or when your soul mate seems a little too happy to see an ex at a party -- it's dating jealousy and it can take hold of you so fast and so hard that it leaves you and your relationship destroyed. Don't let jealousy take over your life: Follow these dating steps toward overcoming the green-eyed monster in you.

1. Leave the Players and the Flirts Behind


“One of the best ways to overcome jealousy is to not get involved with flirts and players.”


One of the best ways to overcome jealousy is to not get involved with flirts and players. There are singles out there who will thrive on making you jealous because they like the dating drama and attention. If you're jealous, they know that you are constantly obsessing over them and dwelling on them. By provoking your jealousy, they've just made themselves the center of your universe. Instead, be smart -- kick them out of your universe and find a better date.

2. Determine if You're Jealous in This Relationship or Every Relationship
In order to overcome jealousy, you've got to figure out whether you're being real or being paranoid. Normal jealousy can actually serve a purpose. It's there to alert you to a partner's possible infidelity -- a threat to the relationship. Is your relationship actually being threatened or is the jealousy in your head only? A good way to figure out if there's a basis to your jealousy is to reflect on your past relationships. Are you always jealous even if you haven't had a reason to be? Do you have trust issues in every relationship or just this one? Also, talk to some friends or family who can be objective about the situation and help you sort out your jealous feelings -- a counselor can also be helpful with this.


3. Get Confident in Dating
The source of a lot of the jealousy has nothing to do with what your date does; it lies within you. If you're upset because your date drools a little when he or she sees a fashion model or celebrity in a magazine, don't start comparing yourself to that image. Work on your dating confidence and focus on all you have to offer. Then, your envy of others will dramatically decrease.


4. Talk It Through
Learn to communicate your jealous feelings in a healthy way. For instance, let your mate know that you're jealous about the amount of time the attractive coworker gets to spend with him or her. Make sure as you're talking, you're not accusing. Accusing makes any person defensive, and you won't get anywhere.

5. Draw the Line
Particularly, if you are in a monogamous relationship with someone, you need to establish what behaviors are acceptable to you and what behaviors will bring out the green-eyed monster in you. Are you okay with your partner constantly texting a single man -- or single woman? Will that send you over the edge? How do you feel about your partner dancing with someone else at a club when you aren't around?


“Establishing reasonable boundaries and respecting them gets both of you on the same playing field.”



Establishing reasonable boundaries and respecting them gets both of you on the same playing field. The keyword here is reasonable. Setting a boundary like "Don't talk to any single men -- or single women -- you work with" is an impossible and smothering line to draw.


6. Strengthen Your Relationship in Other Ways
If you're overly jealous when there isn't a whole lot of reason to be, it means that your relationship isn't as strong as it should be. You need to evaluate what's lacking. Are you not spending enough quality time together? Has the passion died down over the years? Once you identify what's really concerning you, then you can address it with your partner and work on strengthening the relationship rather than wasting time and energy on empty jealous feelings.
Listen @ 10:33 AM